Posts Tagged ‘teenagers’


Chronic Pain Support in Group Sessions

Meeting others kids with arthritis can be a relief

Meeting others kids with arthritis can be a relief

I had an email from fellow rheumatology frequent flyer today. Rona has two daughters who attend the hydrotherapy sessions on Wednesday at the Arthritis Foundation.

She had seen first hand how valuable it is for people to meet others who are going through a similar experience.

“We had some new faces in our aqua class yesterday. One teenage girl who attended hadn’t ever met anyone else with a similar condition.

She broke down in the change room and said she was so relieved to talk with us. It made her feel normal again. She said she had been starting to think it was all in her head.

I think the group hydrotherapy classes are not only good for the body but they are good for the soul too.”

I think this is a really good example of how making the effort to talk to each other is worth it.

I have just posted some tea/coffee times and places on the home page of this website. You would be welcome to join us at any of these times whether your child is in hydrotherapy or not.

Maybe you would like to host a tea/coffee event for rheumatology parents in your area. I’d be happy to help you spread the word.

Photo courtesy of gwennypics at Flickr Creative Commons


Parenting A Child With Arthritis – Some Struggle Is Healthy

The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.
Scott Peck

If we step back kids can feel their own strength.

If we step back kids can feel their own strength.

Most of us understand that it is only through some struggle that children learn and grow.

If you protect them from too much they are unable to develop strength and judgement of their own.

I think it is harder to remember this if your child has an extra layer of suffering in their life.

As a parent I can’t take away her pain. So maybe I am a little too keen to step in to remove discomfort when I am able.

Parenting is hard.  Parenting a child in chronic pain is even harder.  There is such a temptation to try to make up for all the pain.

So I have had to learn to ask my daughter to do her house jobs even though she is in pain.  Like any normal teenager she won’t want to do them.  Like any normal teenage parent it is my job to insist.

It all sounds so obvious now but I have found this difficult to get clear along the way.

I’ve also learnt that the best person to solve my daughters problems is my daughter. We might listen and make recommendations but she is the one solving the mystery of her own life.

Photo courtesy of zenera at Flickr Creative Commons.


What A Difference Hydro Makes

Hydrotherapy can ease joint pain and feelings of isolation

Hydrotherapy can ease joint pain and feelings of isolation

I was really surprised we made hydro today.

My daughter has been very low and sore for the last few days.

We found out there was a holiday session on half an hour before it started.

I woke my daughter and told her.  I was sure there was no way she was going anywhere.

Thirty minutes later my grinning teenager was in the pool with her mates having a great time.  I know she was still feeling pretty sore but she got there to see her friends.

Natalie Bennett-Bremner now runs her Kidz Clinic at the Arthritis Foundation.  She is also developing a pool group of teenagers who come at 8.00am on Saturday morning.

We usually make it to the PMH pool on Monday afternoon for hydro as well. These sessions help in several ways.

It is helpful to exercise the joints without putting too much strain on them.  The warm water is soothing to tight muscles.

It is also an opportunity for the kids to see that they are not the only ones dealing with this sort of challenge.

I met some other mothers today and we talked about this website – they were really keen – so here I am getting it started.  Welcome aboard.