As you may have experienced, the wellness of children with rheumatology issues can fluctuate dramatically from day to day.
One night I was particularly worried. I emailed a friend.
Kay knows a lot about the anxiety that health issues can cause.
She is also highly trained in psychology and counselling.
I found her reply comforting.
Advanced Fear Strategies.
No matter what we do we can’t side step suffering. It is the fabric of the universe along with hope and compassion and love and hate and desire.
We live with the delusion that we are meant to be happy. This is not true. We want to be happy but we aren’t meant to be anything.
You are weaving your life with the colours that you have. Expect nothing. The past and future dim the lights. The worst you fear may never come true, the best you hope for may be the least of it.
Today you are scared and sad. Of course you are. Another day you will have hope and happiness. Of course you will. You already know this.
A clear head doesn’t mean hope and happiness – it means knowing what you are experiencing in the now. You already know that. You already are.
Watch the pain come and watch the pain go. Attaching to it takes all our energy – you don’t sound as if you have a lot to spare right now.
Life isn’t linear. We run, we peak, we plateau, we stall, we slide, we swim around in circles. None of it means anything in terms of outcome. We are duped into believing that it does. Let that go.
Breathe. Watch the sun set. Remember insignificance.
And remember – after enlightenment – the laundry!
Have you found some words of wisdom you would like to share? I would love to hear from you.